Your Gettin On Aint Ya?

The main topic of todays blog is growing up. It occurred to me as I saw people around me getting engaged and in the mists of serious relationships and I started to think: shit... Life's been moving along if you haven't noticed. people have kids and after uni plan to begin there lives with their partners and such & I began to think; Going uni, getting a degree, finding the one, getting married and having kids where all things we ( I know I definitely did) just assumed would happen. But even with our degrees, who's to say we're getting a job? Millions have degree's- theres not allways the jobs to accommodate that or what most people end up doing is getting a job in a completely different field just so they can earn a living (can be really disheartening). Also if you think about it, someone making that decision to spend their whole life with you i a pretty frickin big deal and have kids with etc.. what if we just don't find that right guy/ girl??

I mean look at Jenifer Aniston!

She's talented and beautiful and she's still looking for Mr Right

Just a little thought anyway- Getting older is kinda Scary!

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VOTE! Vote! Vote?....

May 6^th marks the day of some major elections taking place and unfortunately there are a vast majority of people that I know that just won’t vote. As a boy in my Uni claimed ‘I’m just like every other black boy- I don’t vote’ (Something he’s obviously got from his friends and even possibly his family). He sees it as an obvious stereotype and wants to go along with it so he fits into his label; and so sadly that’s the way it’s going to stay for a lot of people as they feel there’s just no point. ‘Their one vote won’t change anything’ and that ‘all parties are corrupt’.

But maybe it is a case of some being more corrupt then others- so for young people from ethnic minorities (Like the boy from my uni) it might be a chance to take action against the party you really don’t want **cough cough the BNP***! There are of course, a lot of young people who have only had the power to vote for a couple of months. Which are thereforeless informed as they are not used to politics being relevant to them personally- and do not see it as their responsibility. But it is literally a part of growing up, an action that shows we’re doing something about the world we complain about, and if you’re happy with it- vote to keep it that way!

Think about you and your situation: it’s important to think of the sort of government you want your child to be brought up with, do you still want there to be tax credits for childrenfor instance? (I know some of my friends got their tax credits as pocket money) Something that will only exist under certain parties i.e. Labour for instance... Free child bus passes were only bought in by the Labour Mayor Ken Livingston... The conservatives for example plan to tackle the gender pay gap, which includes stronger legislation to prevent employers discriminating and better careers guidance for young women and the lib democrat’s plan to give us a right to sack ‘corrupt Mp’s’ and to earn up to 10,000 without being taxed...

But whatever happens- I feel we should at least to do our research. There’s a lot of propaganda around the election that people are reading from peoples “Facebook accounts” for instance (how’s that serious research??) and it may not be a good idea to take the line from the conservatives simplistic poster campaign ‘I doubled the international debt, vote for me’ either- because dig deeper, that’s not entirely true either.

A lot of the financial problems Brown is having to deal with is due to the US sub-prime mortgage market (lending people with no savings and poorly paid jobs loads of money to buy houses they couldn’t make payments on) andbanks across the world taking bigger and bigger risks with our money – which is largely to blame for the country’s financial “capoot.” To be honest what might be useful is to check out their strict policies instead of the hype around it all:

Conservative Policies: http://www.conservatives.com/Policy/

Labour Policies: http://www.labour.org.uk/policies/labour-policies

Liberal Democrats Policies: http://www.libdems.org.uk/our_manifesto.aspx

So next time someone strikes up a conversation about the election, you KNOW what you’re talking about (throw in a couple of really long words to spice it up)-But whatever you do be smart and use your vote.

P.S.

Just for funzies check out how ‘down to earth and grounded the conservatives are’:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-462313/Dave-Cameron-says-hes-touch-reality--wealth-blue-blood-wonder.html

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It's Girl Talk...

On walking in on my mum and her friend having a conversation about men- as we women do all the time, I found myself being involved with their conversation instead of being shunned out with fears that I might hear words such as 'sex' and possibly 'willy', as I usually am. I took this as a sign I'm growing up (dread - will discuss in later blog) and that they could see this; but I was quite surprised by what I was experiencing. It was basically like what me and my friends do i.e. a guy was texting and they were both thinking of smart replies and lying about being on a 'date' that they weren't really on to make mr so and so jealous! what surprised me even more is that I was hearing things my girls and I say such as 'your too soft your just guna et him off the hook later, and not saying this and that to his face'. Also surprising was the fact that I was the most mature voice in the conversation! My point was that they shouldn't play games as old as they are (I though adults were done with all that game playing??). Even me myself find it pointless to continually play games throughout a relationship. I think for the relationship to work you have to be open and do your best to keep communication the best between both people- but obviously not too 'heart on your sleeve' like Gigi from He's Just Not That Into You.

I mean she was ridiculous & very annoying and I guess as it was an American film she got a happy ending but in real life, really? I Thinks there's such a thing as being too eager for love, and its readable and unattractive, sorry.

To be honest I mean I shouldn't have been that surprised by the conversation, I mean I watch Sex And The City & Girlfriends and so on, and I'll be honest- I love girly chats.

I love when we curse men, the cheeky stories, everything really the sheer drama of it all! BUT one thing I have to say, which pains me to say as it echoes words of my ex is that: Nobody can know the situation that your in better than yourself. So although films like He's Just Not That Into You and your friends resent valid points regarding advice on men. Not all men are the same, therefore such advice wont always work for you. also as a good friend of mine said If you have five or six girls that you let dictate what your saying all the time- what are you gunna have to say when its you's two alone. Friggin awkward times that's what it is... You tend to know in your gut what the right thing to do is anyway so I think its best to trust that instinct they got like an 85% success rate anyway (not real figures lol). Also the thing is if you take someone else's advice, if it all goes wrong you'll feel stupid, because why is your friend the reason for problems with your relation ship with your man? Logically, it doesn't make sense. Take advice but at eh same time be wise. One thing I would take away from He's Just Not That Into You though is 'if a guy really wants to see you, he'll make it happen' this is like 98% true unless he has like really bad confidence issues in which case you'll need to take the lead (sorry bout that one mate).

On a lighter note I got a pair of hot black shoes for 5 pound! That's how you know your in Landann

And not over-priced Canterbury- 5 pounds for two piece chicken and chips with a drink?! I think they should make a Dixy in Canterbury they would have soo much business, no lie. I can see the gap in the market myself only thing is running a chicken shop isn't my dream... So ill leave it to the next man.... (inspirational voice) and I'm sure... He will make history with it....

P.S.

I'm Loving Marvin from JLS and Rochelle from The Saturdays as a couple

Gorgeous girl!- At least if were going to lose him well lose him to a hot chick (sigh...)

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Remy weave, natural hair & The 20 year old virgins!?

Hey guys, Firstly I'd like to say that omg I took

out my weave and my hair has GROWN, I was taking it out yesterday and I thought the length was due to the fact that I still had extensions left in- but noo It was all mine. But ive already bought some Remy for my next weave and I want some romance curls for july, so I'll only be natural for a few days....

It's Remy Biiiiiitch! hahahahha ohhh shitt! (Nicki Minaj Voice)

But still I loves it! (my natural hair I mean) My mum even said to me 'omg kyomi you have hair' - Par I know she's just lucky she got blessed with gorgeous hair whilst I got the nappier end of the spectrum, but oh well (sigh) such is life......... weave definitely makes your hair grow boy, I love weave... I genuinely do. I think some boys need to be quiet with their dislike for weave as if to say when they tried to have cornrow they didn't try and add a little 22 extension cause the extension wouldnt reach their neck-

just cause it didn't work for youu-pahaha!

But genuinely if you started seeing a girl who wears weave, don't try and tell her to take it out, if it was that much of a problem you should have approached someone who didn't wear it- just saying.

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But anyways onto the main topic of this blog and that is:

Being a virgin in uni :O

*random thoughts*

Hmmmm...See its a difficult thing because in regard to seeing a guy who wants sex, before it was fair to say oh well if he wants sex so bad it's clear he's only after one thing; on to the next guy who will be patient, perfect and understanding blah blah blah and so on and so forth. But now its different. Guys we're mixing with can be like 22 and how are you going to tell a 22 year old that sex isn't on the agenda (well not at least for a year and it has to be special) sex is expected in such adult relationships and unfortunately... the longer we've left it the more likely we're going to come across these not necessarily bad guys but ones that aren't content with a strictly platonic relationship.

Of course it doesn't help at all that were in uni were sex is EVERYwhere: upstairs at a house party, in the Venue toilets, in your room mates room. It's practically in the smelly Canterbury air that we breathe which unluckily works as a disadvantage to us virgins. Most people expect it of the uni lifestyle or at least from a relationship. Apart from that aspect of uni is the fact that relationships in uni travel so fast. usually you go out and him coming to yours, sleeping round, cooking with (sometimes practically living with) is all steps you take in the relationship but at uni. this happens all at once its naturally that it can be overwhelming engaging in quite quickly serious relationships and sex is on the cards even earlier than usual. Even though it might be natural progression of the relationship be aware for the guys who just want to have sexy time with as many girls as they can before they leave uni.

Also in regards to faith, part of you just feels like if you've come this far you might as well wait till marriage and let God's will be done... But finding a husband in uni seems soo far fetched it's crazy.

In so saying that most people find their wife/husband at uni. My english teacher and the head of psycology both found their husbands studying at the university of kent- shyyt thats the only reason I came here... (i'm 100% percent joking) but i think in regards the special guy/girl were looking for is best to que sera it out. Good luck & allways trust your gut!

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